What does that mean exactly? If you’re lucky, you know them. Their eyes constantly sparkle with passion, there’s a twinkle of a smile in the corner of their mouth and a warm coziness emitting somewhere from the center of their being. Maybe their heart? There are the people whose inner light is so strong that it emits a visible glow around their whole persona. Some might call it an aura, others a light, whatever you call it, these are our favorite kinds of people.
When you’re around them, not only do you warm by their light, but something amazing happens. You start reflecting that light back, developing a glow of your own. There is nothing more attractive. Nothing more comforting. There is a famous semi-Buddhist saying “Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the single candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” It perfectly describes this sentiment (as long as you don’t overthink the physics of lighting a candle with another candle).
We have been incredibly lucky in the fact that recently so many quality people have entered our lives. Around them we feel happy and inspired, our dreams feel like they can become real at any minute and nothing feels out of reach. These are the people who prop you up so that you can really reach for the stars (and they are also the kind of people who will call you out on your metaphors becoming a cheese fest :P). But there is no new information here- I think we all at our core want to surround ourselves with good people. The question is- how do you make this happen?
- Be a person who glows
Like attracts like. Be the kind of person that brings out the best in people. The person that brightens other’s light, and bring a smile to their day. This might be easier said than done, but working on yourself is the first step to any project. Are you kind and giving in your friendships? Do you readily offer a willing ear and honest encouragement? Do you make an effort to be inclusive and open? Do you truly relish other people’s time and company? Ensure that you are welcoming of new and old relationships.
We all are in places in our lives because of investments we made in our careers. Whether it was pursuing that college degree, or staying late in the office- in general we are willing to make that sacrifice. We see how this will benefit us in the future. In the same way, we need to invest in our PLATONIC relationships. I capitalized that for a reason- again, I feel most people prioritize romantic relationships- at least the serious ones. But friendships get significantly less focus, and they are just as important. Humans are social creatures, so these relationships are crucial to our happiness. Schedule time aside for seeing friends, and making new ones. You’ll be happier for it, and it might even contribute to your glow
- Don’t let fear get in the way of a real connection.
Continuing the line of thought above, Mr.SS is reminded of philosopher Alan Watts: “Our trouble is that we have ignored and thus feel insecure in the enormous spectrum of love which lies between rather formal friendship and genital sexuality, and thus are always afraid that once we overstep the bounds of formal friendship we must slide inevitably to the extreme of sexual promiscuity.” – The Joyous Cosmology: Adventures in the Chemistry of Consciousness (1962) Allow yourself to explore a deeper connection with the people you have come to know. Encourage that intimacy and watch yourself and others glow.
- Never say no to a dinner invitation
This one might eventually become a post of its own… but this is seriously the one relationship rule we have. When somebody invites you to their home and offers to feed you that is a very special thing. You will truly get to know people that way and even if you don’t like what you see- hey, you got a free meal out of it. Joking aside, stay open to new relationships. You can’t have too many friends, so stay open to the possibilities. There is magic to eating together, sharing culture through sharing food and opening up yourself and your home. Meals build community, community builds friendships, friendship builds love, and love makes us glow.
While I don’t want to make this a separate bullet- I do want to spend a second on the so called “toxic” people or relationships. Yes, you can take steps to eliminate them. But if you work on your glow, cultivate worthwhile friendships and stay open to meeting new and exciting people this will happen organically. This way, you can stay focused on the positive which really brings out your inner light.
So a toast- to all the people who glow: May we continue to grow surrounded by inner light and reflecting it back on one another. The world is a beautiful place.
 Full disclosure- until now, I thought this was said by Buddha. I didn’t want to sound stupid on the blog, so I did some research, and this quote actually comes from a text on Buddhism and it is a paraphrase of Section 10 of the Sutra. For more information navigate to: http://fakebuddhaquotes.com/thousands-of-candles-can-be-lighted-from-a-single-candle-and-the-life-of-the-single-candle-will-not-be-shortened-happiness-never-decreases-by-being-shared/